only may in paris will tell character interview: haidin bayliss

Today’s character interview features Haidin Bayliss, Hilton‘s former hook-up buddy. The night before Only May in Paris Will Tell began, Hilton went to Haidin’s hotel room to celebrate him winning the Indy tennis tournament. When she knocked on the door, it was answered by Haidin’s ex, Aubrey Gage. This interview takes place a couple weeks after the start of the book. Game Set Match magazine (and therefore, the world in general) does not yet know Haidin and Aubrey are hooking up again, or even in contact with each other. Don’t worry…no major spoilers!! 🙂

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Haidin Bayliss, No. 4 ranked player on the ATP tour

In what will possibly be Game Set Match‘s most exclusive interview of the summer, we snagged a few minutes of the most elusive player on tour’s time. That’s right, you guessed it, tennis bad-boy-turned-mystery-man Haidin Bayliss has decided to grace us with his presence. If it’s anything like his ESPN2 interview a few hours ago, all we can say is lucky us…

Deidre Fox: Haidin, you’re having a hot year, but you couldn’t win a title. Finally you did, a few weeks ago in Indianapolis. How did that feel?

Haidin Bayliss: Like it was about f***ing time.

DF: How did you celebrate?

HB: Privately. With a friend, and a present from another friend.

DF: Hmmm. Might our readers know either of those friends?

HB: They probably know both.

DF: Any chance you’ll give us a hint to their identities?

HB: I might just tell you, if you’d ask.

DF: Who are they?

HB: Ha. Right. Like I’d actually tell you.

DF: Well, it was worth a try, I guess. Did either of these friends have anything to do with your subsequent disappearance?

HB: I told ESPN already. I was kidnapped. I beat off my captors with tennis racquets and still made it in time for the birth of my bastard child. Did you miss that interview?

DF: No, I sure didn’t. Just thought you might have some additional details to add. Like if one of those “friends” you mentioned a minute ago happened to be the mother of your bastard child.

HB: (Laughs) Nope. No more details.

DF: You also told ESPN a couple hours ago that the world would probably find out soon enough where you had been. Is right now soon enough?

HB: No, not now.

DF: When?

HB: Like I said. Soon enough.

DF: Fans around the world were worried sick, imagining every possible scenario. Our “Where’s Haidin” tip line got thousands of emails from distressed fans, most of them not claiming to have seen you, only worried about your safety and fearing the worst.

HB: I would say that’s probably because GSM made my “disappearance” into a big deal by publishing that ludicrous story the other week. And setting up a “Where’s Haidin” tip line.

DF: Clearly we weren’t the only ones thinking along catastrophic lines.

HB: Whatever you say.

DF: Does it make you feel good to know people care so much about your well-being?

HB: Hell no. It makes me think there are a lot of people who need to find something better to do with their time than care about a stranger’s personal life.

DF: What did you think of Brad Gilbert’s new nicknames for you today? Haterade from Adelaide? Or the Bossy Aussie?

HB: Haterade from Adelaide has a nice ring to it. Not bad.

DF: Well besides the big reveal of where you were the last couple weeks, do you have any other surprises in store for the tennis world in 2009?

HB: Not that I can think of. Yet, anyway.

DF: I have a feeling that just won’t be the case. Haidin Bayliss has a quiet fall and winter, barely makes the headlines? No way.

HB: Well, I guess it remains to be seen then.

DF: Can you give us any updates on your love life? How’s Hilton?

HB: She’s great, I’m sure.

DF: You’re sure? So you don’t know? Are you two no longer involved?

HB: Like Hilton and I have always said, we don’t talk every day. We’re not a couple. We never have been. But before you ask, yes, we’re still friends. Everything’s fine.

DF: Just fine?

HB: Just fine. (Smiles)

DF: Any new love interests?

HB: Nope. No one new at all.

DF: Okay, well, you remain tennis’s mystery man. Thanks for your time, Haidin.

HB: Yep.                GSM

 

To find out what Haidin’s “disappearance” is all about…and what happens when the secret about him and Aubrey is revealed…order a copy of Only May in Paris Will Tell here!

Or, if you like to read in chronological order and want to know about Haidin’s relationships with Aubrey and Hilton from the beginning, check out Love Means Zero, the first book featuring Haidin! Or to really go back to the beginning, check out the Spin the Bottle series, about Hilton and her best friend Jill‘s high school adventures!

And stay tuned for the next Only May in Paris Will Tell character interview, featuring the infamous Aubrey Gage!

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#OnlyMayInParis front cover 🙂

 

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#LoveMeansZero front cover

 

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“every hand’s a winner, and every hand’s a loser”

Life is full of choices. People spend a lot of time worrying about whether they’re making the right ones. I’ve spent hours trying to make decisions by writing about the different possibilities, talking about them with friends and family, making pro and con lists, and so on. My characters do this too. In Wrong All Along, Lorylyn panics over breaking up with Brady because even though their relationship can’t go on as it is, she knows letting him go now could mean losing him long-term, and she still loves him. In Love Means Zero, Hilton has to choose whether to pursue her dream life and career of traveling and taking pictures at the expense of her dream relationship with Luke.

Choices almost always involve a risk…letting go of one thing for the hope of something else. So you wonder, what if it doesn’t turn out like I want? Then I will have made the wrong choice and gotten nothing. And maybe lost out on something pretty big.

But I believe that a lot of the time, there’s not really a right or a wrong choice. It’s not the situations you put yourself in that cause happiness or unhappiness; it’s your thoughts and actions regarding those situations. If you make a choice but are consumed by doubt about it, you probably won’t do your best to live it out to the fullest. You have lingering what ifs bogging you down. And that leads you to believe you made the wrong choice…and even to doubt your future choices. In this case, you did make the wrong choice…about not having confidence in your original choice!

I heard a quote last summer by Earl Reum, a motivational speaker and great advocate for student leadership. He said, “Make a decision, and then make it the right one.” What he meant was, when you make choices, you need to put your all into them and get everything you can out of them. No doubts, no regrets.

One of my all-time favorite songs is “The Gambler” by Kenny Rogers. The title of this post is a line from the song. “Every hand’s a winner, and every hand’s a loser.” It’s true…in poker. A hand without even a pair can be a winner. If you choose to bluff and do it well enough to scare off the player with a flush, you will take the pot. And if you’re the player with the great hand who just got scared and folded…well, that just proves every hand can be a loser too.

And isn’t it also true in life? Take Lorylyn. If she stays with Brady, she’ll be winning in that she won’t have to let go of him and can try to improve their relationship. Or, she’ll be losing in that she could continue to feel their relationship is a compromise because it doesn’t match her idea of love. If she breaks up with him, she’ll be winning because she won’t be compromising, and maybe she’ll meet someone else. But she’ll be losing him, possibly for good, and she’s really not ready to even think about meeting anyone else.

“The Gambler” offers a further bit of wisdom, telling us “every gambler knows / the secret to surviving / is knowing what to throw away and knowing what to keep.”

Since, of course, every hand can be both a winner and a loser.

So how the hell do you know which hands to throw away and which to keep? Which hand to pick as your winner?

Well, if you go back to making a decision and then making it the right one, I think you find the answer in realizing what you’ll have to do to make that hand a winner. How hard will you have to work, and is it worth your time and effort? For Lorylyn, how can she improve her relationship with Brady? Is it worth the pain and possible feelings of rejection she’ll have to go through to do it? Or, if she breaks up with him, how can she go about finding a better relationship? Is that worth the pain and possible feelings of rejection she’ll have to go through to do it? And which scenario feels like the real win?

Or, maybe you’ll find the answer in what could make that hand a loser. What can you absolutely not stand to lose? For Hilton, can she imagine her life traveling the world and taking pictures…but without Luke? Or can she imagine herself in an amazing relationship with the guy she considers the love of her life…but lacking professional and creative satisfaction?

I recently got to hear a Mount Everest climber named John Beede speak about the experiences that led to his successful summit. He had a college professor who assigned students to write down 100 goals for their lives, which is what started him on his quest. He encouraged those of us listening to do the same…write down our goals. So I did. I didn’t get all the way to 100, but I got down some good, specific ones.

So now I have a choice. And the ironic thing is, whichever hand I pick as my winner will probably move me toward one of my biggest goals and farther away from one of my others. So I have to think, which choice can I make that will still allow me to meet the other goal, just maybe in a different fashion? And ultimately…which one is worth the risk it involves? Which one am I willing to give 100% unyielding effort to, once I’ve chosen it, to make it a winning hand?

Whichever one I choose, it’ll become my next postcard, one piece of the story of my life, the moment I’m living in that I would die for. (Go here for my theory on postcards: https://authordaisyjordan.wordpress.com/2013/06/09/the-crazy-thing-about-postcards/.)  So I’m pretty excited to make my choice, and then to make the most of it. 🙂